Being in love

Being in love is a state of mind. If you aren’t already in love, it is aspirational. The problem with aspiration or desire of any kind is that it requires you to be necessarily unsatisfied with being as is. If being as is is unsatisfactory to you, how could you possibly Read more…

Subtlety

I recently indulged in one that was 26 hours long series on matchmaking. This an old show, set in Bombay, about a marriage-bureau called Rishta.com. It is run by two friends – a girl, Isha Mirchandani, and a boy, Rohan Mehra. Each episode is about a different case, a different Read more…

Love as it ages

Love is a man-made concept and like all man-made concepts, it’s quite subjective, fluid and hard to define. Thanks to literature, and now media, we have a nice little template to go with. But why is this static?     If you are 18 (or probably younger today), love is that Read more…

Trade-offs

A client recently told me that she didn’t want to get married and the only reason she entered the market is due to parental pressure. So, she thought it was important to clarify that even though she understands that the society expects her to accommodate changes in her life, she Read more…

Distinguishing loves

Recently, on my flight from Bangalore to London, I watched Woody Allen’s “The Cafe Society”, a 2016 romantic drama that has a chain of betrayed relationships – one man leaving his wife for another and then this one leaving for another and so on. Woody Allen’s movies are always about Read more…

Friend-Zoned

One of my friends met a girl on Coffee meets Bagel, who he later went out on a date with. He saw her as a potential romantic partner and so asked her out on a follow up date. She being the typical 30 something waiting for her parents to find her Read more…

One-sided relationships

One of my clients who hasn’t been in a real relationship yet told me that he has improved himself quite a bit through his several one-sided relationships. This is the same sort of enthusiasm I have heard from job changers who are going through several interviews without landing a job. Failure Read more…