Watching love as it ages

A school friend and I were discussing about the point (rather pointlessness) of life and we concluded that it is gene propagation; food and sex are just means to it. Sex is very primal and over the years, we as a society have started making random associations with it such as love, etc. So, love…

Exclusivity and taking joy out of love

Woke up this morning to some happy news. A close friend who’s been single for a very long time, sent me a text saying he and this girl he’d been meeting on and off over the last several months decided to be exclusive. While I was overjoyed, I also thought it was a funny way…

Are you prone to being ‘Kajol’ed?

One of my friends met a girl on Coffee meets Bagel, who he later went out on a date with. He saw her as a potential romantic partner and so asked her out on a follow up date. She being the classic 30 something living independently, waiting for her parents to find her a prince charming,…

Distinguishing between loves

On my flight from Bangalore to London yesterday, I watched Woody Allen’s “The Cafe Society”, a 2016 romantic drama that has a chain of betrayed relationships – one man leaving his wife for another and then this one leaving for another and so on. Woody Allen’s movies are always about unrequited or in-satiated love and…

Schrodinger’s relationships

Growing up, we are all made to believe that we have one soulmate specially manufactured for us, hiding somewhere in this universe and in case our stars align well, we might just be able to meet this person. So, the first time you fall in love, you genuinely believe that this person you are in love with…

Love Sick.

This post is not about arranged marriages, or the dynamics of love marriage. In fact, its not about marriage at all. Not even close. I am going to tell you a story that maybe mine but I bet it feels like yours too. I have told and re-told this story so many times in my own head that…

Love is not blind, its about all the faults you don’t mind

A client recently told me that she didn’t want to get married and the only reason she entered the market is due to parental pressure. So, she thought it was important to clarify that even though she understands that the society expects her to accommodate changes in her life, she wanted a marriage that wouldn’t…

Do one sided love stories make us better people?

One of my clients who, fortunately or unfortunately, has not yet been marred by the experiences of real two-sided relationships told me that he’s improved herself quite a bit through his several one-sided relationships. This is the same sort of enthusiasm I have heard from job changers who are going through several interviews without landing a job. Failure does…

Discovering life through Chowka Bhara

Chowka bhara is a popular board game, Indian kids grow up playing with their grandparents. The rules are fairly simple – There is a 5X5 matrix that can accommodate a maximum of 4 players with 4 pawns each who are competing to reach the centre of the matrix starting from the midpoints of each of…

Are we modern lovers yet?

In today’s modern era of shared economy, what used to be unthinkable a few years ago (sharing cab rides with strangers, sleeping on a stranger’s bed and so on) is commonplace today. Similarly, the concept of monogamy has started losing relevance in modern societies as we embrace YOLO and FOMO and what not! Given that…