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Are you prone to being ‘Kajol’ed?

One of my friends met a girl on Coffee meets Bagel, who he later went out on a date with. He saw her as a potential romantic partner and so asked her out on a follow up date. She being the classic 30 something living independently, waiting for her parents to find her a prince charming, didn’t blow him off immediately. Instead, she decided to hook him onto the back of her truck and drag him along slowly on a bumpy road, just in case she doesn’t find anyone else. And of course, our man hangs on in hope, even though Read more…

What if?

I am in the business of promising people that I would make them more marriage-ready through one-on-one coaching. While I try my best to keep up my end of the deal, there are some things in the world I cannot influence – supply of soulmates. Even if you are more marriageable at the end of three months, what if you never meet anyone you like? There’s a self selection in my clientele – people who are less inclined to settle, reach out to me for help and so convincing them to settle would seem like a measure of success. But should Read more…

Distinguishing between loves

On my flight from Bangalore to London yesterday, I watched Woody Allen’s “The Cafe Society”, a 2016 romantic drama that has a chain of betrayed relationships – one man leaving his wife for another and then this one leaving for another and so on. Woody Allen’s movies are always about unrequited or in-satiated love and people love it because they can all relate to it at some level and it makes their one-sided loves worth loving. The human spirit loves complex problems or challenges. We can never truly appreciate and cherish what we have. It is in our nature to want what we Read more…

Hobbies, habbits and hobbits

In the past, women were made to sing or have their hobbies like tailoring/ crochet skills praised at the bride seeing ceremony because most of the time these women were going to be housewives and had to justify how they would spend time productively at home besides cooking and tending to the family. Today, both men and women work and their time at home after work is their own and nobody needs to justify what they do with it. However, people care about hobbies of a potential partner like never before. There’s a good chance you might not relate to Read more…

PG rated spouse hunting

Despite pivoting from matchmaking to matrimonial advisory, I continue to get tonnes of calls everyday from some aunty or another about their son (not daughter, mind you!) who is in the market. I try to explain what I do but somewhere through the conversation, I just give up and tell them to ask their wards to get in touch. The most common immediate reaction I get from these mothers is them thinking how absurd it is that I want to talk to their wards because after all parents know whats best for their children, right? As parents, some of us really have a tough Read more…

Spike that arranged marriage coffee yo!

A friend of mine has been in a the market for a while and has just not been able to find anyone remotely interesting. Knowing the sort of women he has been with or fancied in the past (only counting the ones while he was sober), I think he has a type – the quirky and wannabe quirky. You might be quick to judge here and say oh, if she is “wannabe” quirky, then that’s definitely not cool. I couldn’t disagree more with you on this one as I believe, if someone’s trying to be interesting, its anyway better than Read more…

Margin for errors in the market

As I’ve said several times, we are the Tinder generation and the relentless swiping makes us believe we have infinite chances at great relationships and the truth is, we are far from that. In fact, my hunch is that, this is one of the many reasons why divorce rates have sky rocketed in my social circle because we believe its far easier to break ties with our partner and find another than making it work with the existing one. While its easier to break, its far tougher to find another partner and this only gets exponentially harder at every attempt. Read more…

Making it to the second date and beyond

The reason Marriage Broker Auntie pivoted from actively matchmaking to matrimonial advisory is because every introduction is driven by pure instinct which is a result of several years of being in business but quite often, people aren’t ready to make the most out of these opportunities. As a result, it is very easy for clients to believe that I didn’t find them the right match and dismiss my value. Today’s generation has grown up on swiping relentlessly and actually believes that their possibilities are infinite, which is far from the bitter truth (more about this in another blogpost). If not sheer luck, it takes Read more…

The profile picture protocol

I cannot begin to reiterate the importance of first impression in the marriage market. The moment you are introduced to someone in the market, the first order of business is them stalking and judging you on every tiny detail you have floating out there on the virtual web space, even before they talk to you. Most judgements are made based on images – how you look, how your looks have progressed, what you wear, how you wear, who you hang out with and so on. Shallow, superficial and unfair you think? Maybe, but that’s how it works. So you better accept Read more…

Everybody's got a "But"!

You know how people say “Oh everything’s great about that person, but…”. It is this very “but” that keeps people from being in a relationship already. The “but” doesn’t necessarily take a bad connotation in every case, it’s just some sort of a hang up (positive or negative) or impediment for them to find a partner. Sometimes when people come to me looking for a bride/ groom, I am quite perplexed that someone who seems so great is still single. Soon I realise that they aren’t getting married because there’s one (or many) thing (s) or a “but” that’s preventing Read more…