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Why are Mysore boys getting divorced?

Mysore is like Bangalore’s innocent sibling. Every Gen-X Bangalorean’s dream is to retire off in Mysore, although most of them would never do it. Once you get used to the faster pace of life in Bangalore, it’s hard to appreciate the calm in Mysore. I hear Mysore’s no longer as calm as it used to be, but its’ still 20 years behind Bangalore for sure. According to my folks, people from Mysore are generally more cultured, traditional and all that compared to Bangaloreans. Smaller town, lower exposure, so fair enough. Today, I was randomly stalking people on a matrimonial site Read more…

Making a matrimonial profile

Eons ago, I was out clubbing with some friends and I saw this boy, who was swaying to some metal, with his eyes closed. He was carelessly holding a beer bottle in one hand, and carried this non-challance that was so attractive. That was his signal (besides the fact that he had a fancy degree from a fancy school, which I already knew about). Unfortunately, given how online the world is and how little opportunity most of us have at emitting such “signals”, we have to make do with an attractive “profile”, because that’s the only signal you can emit Read more…

Tearing down the ideal husband

For the longest time, I remember romanticising the idea of an ideal husband. Back in 2006, I had even found this boy who I thought was great marriage material. He was well educated, smart, good looking, hailed from a good family, belonged to the same caste as me and we got along quite well. At this point, I was barely 20 years old. Where did all these ideas of an ideal husband even come from? None of them were my own. Some context: Of the 8 cousins on my dad’s side who were older than me, 1 girl and 3 Read more…

Signs your arranged marriage date ain’t into you.

The biggest problem with the arranged marriage process is that it is an excruciatingly long process, especially if you aren’t lucky. You have to meet so many people before you start to see some hope. Now, the number of people you see is not something you can significantly influence, although the duration you see them is definitely under your control. You can cut your losses and move on pretty quickly if you can spot the following quickly: 1. Not making the effort to initiate a meeting People who dilly dally on meeting you knowing fairly well that things are not Read more…

Fingering your phone too much?

Part 1: How it all started You’re stuck in a traffic jam, you pull out your phone and mindlessly start swiping. You are waiting in a queue, you pull out your phone, start scrolling. You aren’t able to fall asleep, you pick up your phone and start fidgeting. You go into one app, then into another and back to the first. Each time you do this for a couple of minutes, you get extremely exhausted and switch tabs or put your phone away, and then do it all over again after a couple of minutes. Then, there are some days Read more…

How to make virtual dating work?

The great thing about technology is that opens up your social network quite a bit and allows you to date someone at the other end of the world. Sustaining a long-distance relationship over an extended period is quite hard but it’s still a great way to meet someone. Whether you are away from home or you live in a small city, meeting like minded people can be challenging. So, making virtual dates work is an essential skill to have. So, here are 5 easy steps you can follow to both set up dates and follow through – 1. Cast your Read more…

How do you decide whom to marry?

I hate to admit, but I am a compulsive googler. I’m pretty sure some of you out there are closet googlers too. So, this one goes out to you, especially if you are in a relationship (or just even seeing someone on the arranged marriage market) and wondering if you should get married to the person you are currently seeing. You want to start by asking yourself these 5 basic questions – Do you get along? If you are familiar with consulting interviews, a popular way of interviewing someone is to assess if you’re willing to be stuck with this Read more…

The marital whisper network and why men don’t have it

Disclaimer – While I am principally not opposed to the idea of gender as a spectrum, I must confess I am fairly illiterate. So, as always, this blogpost will cover only the two ends of this spectrum. My sincere apologies to anyone else in-between for not having enough to say. I was talking to a good friend from school earlier this morning and we were exchanging notes on our respective married lives and she said atleast we women folk have a whisper network where we are able to vent/ share experiences, although we are shamed about it as being disloyal Read more…

Dating's over-rated!

Few weeks ago, a friend was visiting London and we were talking about my escapades at Marriage Broker Auntie. In passing, I said, dating’s over-rated and that people much rather build the muscle to make a relationship work. A week later, he asked me to explain what I’d meant by dating being over-rated and as always, I thought I’d attempt to think out loud through a blogpost. Until the late 90’s and early 2000s, you’d have a handful of people settled abroad in the extended family circles. With the advent of IT, pretty much every Indian household today has atleast Read more…

So you’re 30 and still single, what now?

  With the recent shutdown of Mint on Sunday, my column died too. My dream of having a column in a national newspaper about love and relationships was pretty short-lived, but lived nevertheless. Sigh. So I shall continue to publish my works here. A couple of months ago, I wrote that the average age at which people are starting to look for partners nowadays has gone up significantly and how the lack of liquidity in that market has made it challenging for people to find mates and easily settle down. An overwhelming number of people reached out to me and said #metoo Read more…