Are you prone to being ‘Kajol’ed?

One of my friends met a girl on Coffee meets Bagel, who he later went out on a date with. He saw her as a potential romantic partner and so asked her out on a follow up date. She being the classic 30 something living independently, waiting for her parents to find her a prince charming,…

What if?

I am in the business of promising people that I would make them more marriage-ready through one-on-one coaching. While I try my best to keep up my end of the deal, there are some things in the world I cannot influence – supply of soulmates. Even if you are more marriageable at the end of…

Distinguishing between loves

On my flight from Bangalore to London yesterday, I watched Woody Allen’s “The Cafe Society”, a 2016 romantic drama that has a chain of betrayed relationships – one man leaving his wife for another and then this one leaving for another and so on. Woody Allen’s movies are always about unrequited or in-satiated love and…

Hobbies, habbits and hobbits

In the past, women were made to sing or have their hobbies like tailoring/ crochet skills praised at the bride seeing ceremony because most of the time these women were going to be housewives and had to justify how they would spend time productively at home besides cooking and tending to the family. Today, both…

PG rated spouse hunting

Despite pivoting from matchmaking to matrimonial advisory, I continue to get tonnes of calls everyday from some aunty or another about their son (not daughter, mind you!) who is in the market. I try to explain what I do but somewhere through the conversation, I just give up and tell them to ask their wards to get…

Spike that arranged marriage coffee yo!

A friend of mine has been in a the market for a while and has just not been able to find anyone remotely interesting. Knowing the sort of women he has been with or fancied in the past (only counting the ones while he was sober), I think he has a type – the quirky…

Margin for errors in the market

As I’ve said several times, we are the Tinder generation and the relentless swiping makes us believe we have infinite chances at great relationships and the truth is, we are far from that. In fact, my hunch is that, this is one of the many reasons why divorce rates have sky rocketed in my social…

Making it to the second date and beyond

The reason Marriage Broker Auntie pivoted from actively matchmaking to matrimonial advisory is because every introduction is driven by pure instinct which is a result of several years of being in business but quite often, people aren’t ready to make the most out of these opportunities. As a result, it is very easy for clients to believe that I…

The profile picture protocol

I cannot begin to reiterate the importance of first impression in the marriage market. The moment you are introduced to someone in the market, the first order of business is them stalking and judging you on every tiny detail you have floating out there on the virtual web space, even before they talk to you. Most…

Everybody's got a "But"!

You know how people say “Oh everything’s great about that person, but…”. It is this very “but” that keeps people from being in a relationship already. The “but” doesn’t necessarily take a bad connotation in every case, it’s just some sort of a hang up (positive or negative) or impediment for them to find a…