Men and Women view relationships differently

Warning: This is a two-year-old post imported from my old blog and it was based on just one data point. This is not an accurate reflection of my thoughts today. 
Like a Christmas dress is to a girl, a pair of everyday-strapped leather sandals is for a guy. A very crucial purchase. But there is a stark difference between the two. A girl is never going to wear her Christmas dress for another party, while the guy wears his sandals everyday. Then, what connects the two? By face value, both these purchases take quite a lot of time and analysis. But, I am about to dissect this subject using a rather strange analogy.
I am 27 and I have a lot of friends who are struggling to find themselves a match in the arranged marriage markets. If there are so many of them out there, why are they still struggling? I realize that most girls have a rather juvenile list of requirements that a potential groom needs to necessarily fulfill in order to appeal to them. Almost none of the points on this list are negotiable, which is perfectly all right. But, the problem really is with what goes into this list. 
The list is very dreamy and shortsighted. The guy has to look great, but not great enough to attract unwanted attention. The guy must be social but not social enough that he prefers to hang out more with his boys than the girl itself. The guy must have a really high paying job but somehow must also magically make time for the girl always. The guy must know how to treat a woman well, but not all women, mind you. Just this one. She wants a picture perfect guy who will make for a fantastic wedding photo and for much awe among the aunties at the wedding. For girls, it’s all about the wedding and not a day beyond! 
The girl has a crazy idea in her head about how her Christmas dress must be though eventually it never really turns out the way she’d wanted it in the first place. She doesn’t care about the cloth shrinking after one wash or tearing apart after one wear. She’ll love it as long as it fits and looks absolutely gorgeous on her because she’s really only thinking about the Christmas party. When the cloth shrinks or loses colour, that’s when she realizes how short-sighted she was while picking the dress, but then it’s too late with too many compromises lying ahead of her. In this case, it doesn’t matter. But, when it comes to choosing a life partner, women are missing the point. It’s not just a wedding; it’s a marriage of several years that lie ahead of them. Now, I am not sure if I have gone a little overboard trying to make it sound a little more ridiculous than it actually is, but that’s how things stand today.
On the other hand, guys are fairly simple (of course there are outliers). They care about some basic things like looks, attitude, trust and family values. That’s it. No kidding. This is what matters to them at the start and all along through the end. They realize that they have to live with this through their married lives and that’s what makes their search a tad bit more mature that the girls’. This is just like picking up a pair of sandals for everyday wear. They know they have to live with it. So they will only pick up the ones that they’re going to be comfortable with through everyday. So, don’t complain if he knows he only cares about the face because he knows he has to wake up to this face every day!
Of course, somewhere down the lane, there are compromises a girl has to make because it’s almost ridiculously impossible to find someone who ticks off everything on her list. But, as it goes with a dress, the girl will buy it (life partner) and have it altered the way it suits her. On the other hand, when was the last time you saw a guy get his sandals altered? Never! No, guys don’t do that. They just buy what they like and live it without really complaining. They know that the sandals are going to get tattered with wear and they’re really okay with it. 

So you see, there’s hardly any intersection in the ways that men and women work, yet somewhere when the outliers meet..there’s a match.
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